The truth about gay marriage...
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real_truth_networkThroughout the last decade there has been a sharp rise in the number of gays and lesbians forming their own families through adoption, foster care, artificial insemination and other means. Researchers have estimated that the total of children nationwide are living with at least one gay parent ranges from six to 14 million, including myself.
At the same time, the United States is facing a critical shortage of adoptive and foster parents. As a result, thousands of children within this country are without permanent homes. These children languish for weeks, months and even years within state foster care systems that lack qualified foster parents and are frequently riddled with abuse and other problems. In Arkansas, for example, the foster care system does a poor job of caring for children that it has been placed under court supervision.
Many states have moved to safeguard the interests of children with gay or lesbian parents. For example, at least 21 states have granted second-parent adoptions to gay and lesbian couples, ensuring that their children can enjoy the benefits of two legal parents,especially if one of the parents dies or becomes incapacitated.
Some gays and lesbians can become good parents but are often denied of custody based on sexual orientation. State agencies and courts now apply a "best interest of the child" standard to decide these cases. Under this approach, a person's sexual orientation cannot be the basis for ending or limiting a parent-child relationship unless if it is demonstrated that it causes harm to a child- a claim that has been routinely disproved by social science research. Using this standard in more than 22 states have allowed gays and lesbians to adopt children through state-run or private adoption agencies.
Sadly it is not all positivity, sunshine, and rainbows for children in these relationships. Many people of the LGBT community are known to have mental health issues and sometimes children are subjected to narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse. Sometimes LGBT parents will push therapy on their offspring because they don't agree with their ways. Sometimes the other gay or lesbian parent will tear their children away from their extended family so they can have their parent for themselves. The children will grow up feeling resentful towards their birth parent for not having a positive father or mother figure in their lives. The effects of gay marriage on the children can be quite devastating.
Children from LGBT families often grow up with mental health issues as well. It is common for them to grow up with clinical depression, anxiety, complicated PTSD, self harm, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem, abandonment issues, co dependency, and possibly identity issues, especially if the parents force their child to have a sex change to suit their needs. If a child is not allowed to express themselves or become their own person, they will be lost forever.
That was my case, except for the sex change part... my parents got divorced then my mother left me and my father when I was ten years old. My father was left to raise me on his own. He did the best he could to bring me up without her, but he didn't know what to do since I was born with a high functioning case of fetal alcohol syndrome, which is a preventable yet incurable tragedy I have to live with for the rest of my life. I didn't get the help, emotional support, and nurturing I needed while I was growing up and I was left to deal with almost everything on my own. Then by the time I was 14 years old, my mother abandoned me completely to live a "normal and perfect" life with someone else and my dad was dating another woman and became engaged to her. I was excited for him and I was looking forward to having a new step mother and step siblings. I grew up as an only child out in the middle of nowhere so having siblings around could have benefited me in a lot of ways and I wouldn't be so lonely. Unfortunately that was not meant to be. He broke up with her and a few years later I found out that he was gay. My dreams of having a happy family life at home were shattered then thrown out the window like the American Dream. The idea of my dad being gay made me feel sick to my stomach, but I was forced to accept it because he's my dad and it wasn't my place to judge and condemn him for the choices he made. My dad had several "boyfriends" after he broke up with his ex fiance then he finally settled for a teacher from my former school. When I first got to know this man, our relationship was okay but our "parental" relationship deteriorated over time. I'm a straight Conservative Christian while he's a gay Liberal Agnostic. Our views clashed constantly and we just weren't getting along anymore. I also had a lot of trouble accepting this relationship, which made me realize that I will never have a stepmom or a mother figure again. How can I heal from my mother's abandonment if I had no female role model in my life? It might be possible through love and forgiveness, but it won't be easy and I will be left with trust and abandonment issues for the rest of my life.
That is why children need a mother and a father, not two dads or two moms. They need that balance in their lives so they can develop stronger connections to the opposite sex and develop healthy relationships in the future, which is something I have trouble with as well. How many children of LGBT couples grow up with the feeling that something is missing from their lives? Hundreds? Thousands? Millions? How would that affect marriages and family relationships in the future? It's already getting to the point where gay marriage is being pushed on people throughout the United States and it's getting to the point where you can't even call a couple husband and wife in some states anymore because it's "offensive" to the LGBT community. Then they go out and protest in the streets, wearing vagina costumes and hats that support rights for lesbians and feminists alike. Does that sound like love and tolerance to you? No. That is intolerance and hate, especially towards the straight and Christian people. That was when I woke up and understood why homosexuality is so sinful and an abomination to God according to the scriptures I had selected down below:
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22
“If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” Leviticus 20:13
“The sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.” 1 Timothy 1:10-11
“For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.” Romans 1:26-28
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
“But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Mark 10:6-9
In conclusion, even though homosexuality is a big issue in today's world, people can still learn the truth if they read and study the scriptures. Homosexuality is a sin and you can lose your place in heaven. However, everyone else must realize that there are many other sins as well committed by heterosexual people such as adultery and casual sex before marriage, as seen in the book of Corinthians. That is no more sinful than homosexuality. But if we repent, ask God to have mercy on us and forgive us, then finally turn away from these sins, we can still be saved.
Jesus loves us all.
At the same time, the United States is facing a critical shortage of adoptive and foster parents. As a result, thousands of children within this country are without permanent homes. These children languish for weeks, months and even years within state foster care systems that lack qualified foster parents and are frequently riddled with abuse and other problems. In Arkansas, for example, the foster care system does a poor job of caring for children that it has been placed under court supervision.
Many states have moved to safeguard the interests of children with gay or lesbian parents. For example, at least 21 states have granted second-parent adoptions to gay and lesbian couples, ensuring that their children can enjoy the benefits of two legal parents,especially if one of the parents dies or becomes incapacitated.
Some gays and lesbians can become good parents but are often denied of custody based on sexual orientation. State agencies and courts now apply a "best interest of the child" standard to decide these cases. Under this approach, a person's sexual orientation cannot be the basis for ending or limiting a parent-child relationship unless if it is demonstrated that it causes harm to a child- a claim that has been routinely disproved by social science research. Using this standard in more than 22 states have allowed gays and lesbians to adopt children through state-run or private adoption agencies.
Sadly it is not all positivity, sunshine, and rainbows for children in these relationships. Many people of the LGBT community are known to have mental health issues and sometimes children are subjected to narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse. Sometimes LGBT parents will push therapy on their offspring because they don't agree with their ways. Sometimes the other gay or lesbian parent will tear their children away from their extended family so they can have their parent for themselves. The children will grow up feeling resentful towards their birth parent for not having a positive father or mother figure in their lives. The effects of gay marriage on the children can be quite devastating.
Children from LGBT families often grow up with mental health issues as well. It is common for them to grow up with clinical depression, anxiety, complicated PTSD, self harm, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem, abandonment issues, co dependency, and possibly identity issues, especially if the parents force their child to have a sex change to suit their needs. If a child is not allowed to express themselves or become their own person, they will be lost forever.
That was my case, except for the sex change part... my parents got divorced then my mother left me and my father when I was ten years old. My father was left to raise me on his own. He did the best he could to bring me up without her, but he didn't know what to do since I was born with a high functioning case of fetal alcohol syndrome, which is a preventable yet incurable tragedy I have to live with for the rest of my life. I didn't get the help, emotional support, and nurturing I needed while I was growing up and I was left to deal with almost everything on my own. Then by the time I was 14 years old, my mother abandoned me completely to live a "normal and perfect" life with someone else and my dad was dating another woman and became engaged to her. I was excited for him and I was looking forward to having a new step mother and step siblings. I grew up as an only child out in the middle of nowhere so having siblings around could have benefited me in a lot of ways and I wouldn't be so lonely. Unfortunately that was not meant to be. He broke up with her and a few years later I found out that he was gay. My dreams of having a happy family life at home were shattered then thrown out the window like the American Dream. The idea of my dad being gay made me feel sick to my stomach, but I was forced to accept it because he's my dad and it wasn't my place to judge and condemn him for the choices he made. My dad had several "boyfriends" after he broke up with his ex fiance then he finally settled for a teacher from my former school. When I first got to know this man, our relationship was okay but our "parental" relationship deteriorated over time. I'm a straight Conservative Christian while he's a gay Liberal Agnostic. Our views clashed constantly and we just weren't getting along anymore. I also had a lot of trouble accepting this relationship, which made me realize that I will never have a stepmom or a mother figure again. How can I heal from my mother's abandonment if I had no female role model in my life? It might be possible through love and forgiveness, but it won't be easy and I will be left with trust and abandonment issues for the rest of my life.
That is why children need a mother and a father, not two dads or two moms. They need that balance in their lives so they can develop stronger connections to the opposite sex and develop healthy relationships in the future, which is something I have trouble with as well. How many children of LGBT couples grow up with the feeling that something is missing from their lives? Hundreds? Thousands? Millions? How would that affect marriages and family relationships in the future? It's already getting to the point where gay marriage is being pushed on people throughout the United States and it's getting to the point where you can't even call a couple husband and wife in some states anymore because it's "offensive" to the LGBT community. Then they go out and protest in the streets, wearing vagina costumes and hats that support rights for lesbians and feminists alike. Does that sound like love and tolerance to you? No. That is intolerance and hate, especially towards the straight and Christian people. That was when I woke up and understood why homosexuality is so sinful and an abomination to God according to the scriptures I had selected down below:
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22
“If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” Leviticus 20:13
“The sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.” 1 Timothy 1:10-11
“For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.” Romans 1:26-28
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
“But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Mark 10:6-9
In conclusion, even though homosexuality is a big issue in today's world, people can still learn the truth if they read and study the scriptures. Homosexuality is a sin and you can lose your place in heaven. However, everyone else must realize that there are many other sins as well committed by heterosexual people such as adultery and casual sex before marriage, as seen in the book of Corinthians. That is no more sinful than homosexuality. But if we repent, ask God to have mercy on us and forgive us, then finally turn away from these sins, we can still be saved.
Jesus loves us all.
